Girl, I was that guy once

I met this girl at church a few months ago and she was kinda chill. We were talking about normal stuff and all. A bunch of us YSA would go to events and I met with her friends at one point with another YSA.

I didn't realise the whole time she was hitting on me. Or actually I think I did realise but didn't know how to politely shut her down.

So I just kind of went along with things and slowly started ghosting her which was hard to do because A, I don't like being mean and B, I couldn't avoid her every week at church.

Anyhow her messaging game is honestly abysmal - borderline pathetic. The saddest thing is that it reminds me a lot of his I used to message and interact with people 😔

The problem I think is that she's desperate and tries too hard.

Trying too hard is a thing I grimace to discourage as exerting yourself should always be applauded, or so I thought. Honestly though she really does just try too hard and it is kind of repulsive.

Like, she'll respond to every message within 2 seconds and just talks and talks. I always thought that was the respectful and good social thing to do but I now realise that unless you are genuinely close to someone then that level of intensity is just a burden.

Anyways I feel kind of bad as I want to help her but if I try to do anything she'll probably just use it to develop her fantasy of us being together.

I wish I knew what to do